We live in a society that is constantly trying to dictate to you, what to do, how to be a woman and stay in your lane. A society that is constantly trying to mould you to what they consider ‘a perfect woman’ which ofcourse to them means ‘wife material’…
Today, I’m reminding girls, women to not dwell on stereotypes.
We live in a society that is constantly trying to dictate to you, what to do, how to be a woman and stay in your lane. A society that is constantly trying to mould you to what they consider ‘a perfect woman’ which ofcourse to them means ‘wife material’.
A society that is persistently trying to put you in a little corner, telling you “that’s a man’s position”, “a man deserves that more”, “it’s not the kind of thing a woman should be involved in”.
Too many stereotypes!
But do not let those stereotypes define you, your ability or capability to do things.
If you believe in something, and you know you possess the qualifications needed for that role, go for it! Do not overthink it sis.
Do not allow the stereotypical mindset of people(society) deter you, make you doubt yourself. Make you reconsider your goals, pushing for that thing you want so bad
As you keep pushing, your naysayers will be both men and women.
A lot of women have been made to think small, they have gotten so used to that little box society placed them in, so used to letting society define their every move, define what they should and should not go for, they’ve been made to think “this is my place, and that’s a man’s place”. So seeing you doing things that to them is ‘peculiar to men’ to them is ‘a man’s job’, may seem strange or inappropriate, threatening even.
There’ll surprisingly be people who will genuinely tell you, “you can’t be too wealthy or powerful as a woman or else you will chase men away, men will be intimidated by you”. Sounding as though acceptance from a man makes you more valuable as a person, as if your achievements where a man is concerned will only really matter when you make him feel more important than all of it, and act demure, act like all of it, is not that big a deal. Act like your self worth depends on validation from a man.
A lot of men ofcourse, have been conditioned to think they’re the superior gender.
To think that there are titles, positions, accolades, that should be reserved for them.
Toxic masculinity plays out everywhere. In homes, workplaces, places of worship; society in general.
This is where I feel like upbringing comes in.
As much as I believe that as you grow older; you read, educate yourself, observe, open your mind to learning and unlearning, I still strongly advice parents to focus on the male child just as much as they focus on the female child, there’s something about a good foundation.
Teach them to be responsible human beings, teach them to respect everyone and treat everyone equally.
Teach them about equality, teach them that every woman is deserving of just as much rights as men.
Teach them that there is no such thing as men being superior.
Tell them that there is no such thing as a man that can’t cry, a man with less emotions, a hard man. Teach them that they don’t have to behave impenetrable and hard to be considered a man.
Let them know that they will be loved and respected for who they really are, not the man society wants them to be like.
To a woman out there! You are beautiful, you are stronger than you think, you are a fighter, you are smarter than you know.
You are a queen!
You are loved. You are all these things and more.
Break boundaries. Yes! Rollover those boundaries the society set for you.
Love, hugs and kisses
*What do you think about today’s thought? What contributions do you have to give? What are some of the challenges as a woman, that you have encountered in the field you’re in, in the pursuit of your goals? Have you made a decision to go for that thing you want today?* Let’s hear it all!
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